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I’m Back and There are Some Things I Want To Talk About
Hello!
I’ve missed you guys. I’m revving the blog back up this week, albeit at the speed of turtle with heat exhaustion. I’m not going to set any productivity records for the next month or so, is what I’m saying.
But, I’m back.
And since I’m just now coming back, I thought it might be a good time to talk to you about where this blog came from, where it is now, and where it’s going… to Hollywood!
Just kidding, it’s not going to Hollywood. Although later this week I’ll be in NYC for the BlogHer Voices of the Year ceremony, and there will indeed be famous people in attendance (notably Gwyneth Paltrow, so obviously I’ll be getting my vagina steam-cleaned in preparation).
But Gwyneth is in the future, and right now I’m taking a minute to look at the past.
When I started this blog 15 months ago I didn’t know what to expect. I started it in a kind of panic, to be totally honest. I haven’t discussed this on the blog before, but I actually began writing A Mothership Down in the midst of a very terrible time for my family. My mom is battling cancer, and last year she was seriously ill. Intensive care unit/hospitalization for two months type of ill. Touch-and-go for awhile type of ill.
It was extremely scary for my family, and in the midst of that scare I chose to leave my job as a social worker to spend time with my mom and to take care of Nolan. I hadn’t planned on being a stay at home parent, but given the circumstances at the time this was the best option for our family.
So, clearly, in light of devastating life events I did what anyone would do – I started a humor blog!
The thing is, you guys, I didn’t know what else to do. I wasn’t accustomed to staying at home with a baby, and I’ve always liked to write. I was unmoored, and I needed something I could focus on that maintained some of my identity. It would be a hobby! It would be a distraction. I’d see how it went.
Well, it didn’t go the way I thought it would, exactly. Over the past year the blog has grown well beyond my wildest expectations for it. The Facebook page is booming. I’ve been writing regularly for Huffington Post, Scary Mommy, and many other sites. The blog won some pretty big awards. I’ve met everyone from The Honest Toddler to Dooce to The Bloggess. It’s been crazy. It’s been amazing. It’s also been hard, hard work.
It turns out this hobby is a job, and one that I might be taking seriously long term.
My mom eventually recovered beyond any of the predictions we were given, and was able to come back home. She’s been back in active treatment for over a year now, when she had been told that wasn’t even a possibility.
She’s the best.
My being home has made it possible for me to spend a lot of time with my son, and my mom, and more importantly with both at the same time.
It’s been worth it.
As for the blog? Well, I threw myself into it full force. I tend to be like that. I haven’t mentioned my mom’s health struggles because I like having this space to write about the funny stuff – and there is a LOT of funny stuff – about being a new mom in a new mom community that seems to have lost its mind half the time. I’ve kept the blog mostly light (with some notable exceptions), but the reality is, there is also a lot of hard stuff going on.
My sense of humor is such that I still often want to write the light stuff. But not always. Cancer is an asshole. I’m sure you get that. You all have lives, after all.
Over the past two weeks I’ve taken my first real vacation from blogging, and I’ve reached some conclusions, namely that:
- I need to slow down a little bit if I’m going to sustain this over the long-term.
- I’m writing a humor/mom blog, not dealing in matters of national security that require 100% vigilance at all hours of the day and night.
- I want to give myself permission to write casual/personal/anecdotal posts that won’t necessarily be “viral” hits but that are more about what’s happening day to day in my life. Maybe these aren’t so polished.
- I like hot dogs much more than I thought I did.
- To justify spending all of these hours on the blog I do actually need to make some money from it, and that working with sponsors and monetizing the blog in other ways is not only possible but essential for my family.
- American Ninja Warrior is my new favorite thing ever.
- I need to set some limits for myself or Facebook and blogging and the internet in general may burn me up in a virtual ball of flame.
Basically, I asked myself the question: Do I really need to check Facebook/the blog every time I pee? (The answer to that question was “no” and also the phrase “sanitation violation” is flashing before my eyes).
Something interesting/nice/overwhelming about the community of writers who are behind the “mom blogs” is that it is highly regarded within the group when you are as supportive and active on each other’s blogs as possible. I respect that. I like that.
But.
But. That shit takes up a lot of time! I want to be supportive to others while also being reasonably balanced in the rest of my life. I would assume many other bloggers struggle with this as well.
So, I’m trying to recalibrate. I’m going to be asking myself more often if socializing on Facebook, even if it’s in a nice and supportive way, is as important as spending that time with my very young son, or with my mom. Or if it’s as important as making time to prepare something for dinner so that my family doesn’t end up eating like a pack of stray dogs, fighting for scraps of food that I throw at the table.
It’s a question worth asking, I think, not just for my own life right now but probably for many of us, whatever roles we have.
In order to strive for some better balance in my life, I’ll now be working 15 hours a week on the blog. That’s not “all night” and “every bathroom break” and “to infinity.”
That might mean there will be slightly more lag time between posts. It might mean I don’t get to respond to every single comment on Facebook (even though I do read them!). It might mean I take a little longer to respond to emails. It might mean none of that, if I find that my productivity goes up when I’m on a time constraint.
We’ll see.
What I know it will mean is that I’m less likely to burn myself out. It will mean that the blog continues to make sense for me, and that what started during a very stressful time can continue to grow at a sustainable pace. Maybe not as fast as it’s been growing. But that’s ok.
We’re not in a race, after all, are we?
(Thanks to my readers, new and old, for sticking around).
Ly
American Ninja warriors for the win! Don’t burn yourself out sista. We need the humour around here! xx
Liz
I won’t Ly! That’s why this new plan is in place. If I burn myself out on anything right now it will be American Ninja Warrior 😉
Ly
Lol. Obsessed with that show. We don’t get it over here (Ireland), but I was back in Boston recently for 2 weeks… whatever quincy market…give me all the ninjas!
Jessica
I love LOVE your humor & your blog. Do what’s best for you & the rest will follow. The rest being your followers. We’re not going anywhere. 🙂 & your due diligence will be inspiring for all of us to log off of social media & get back into our own lives as well….once in awhile. 😉
Liz
Thanks Jessica! Such a nice comment!
Annie {Stowed Stuff}
I love reading your stuff and you’re doing everything right. I hope the weekend at BlogHer is just as awesome as Mom 2.0 for you!!! Let me know how the steam cleaning works out! Can’t wait to hear all about what Gwyneth had to say!!! xoxo You have your Mom’s big smile!
Liz
Thanks Annie! Oh man I can’t wait to sit down and have a chat with Gwyneth about our lady bits. If (WHEN!) that happens it might be more exciting than all of the appetizers at Mom2.0 combined!
Mer
I guess I should stop compulsively checking your blog for new posts while at work! I love this post though and yeah, I guess I can learn from you and *try* to unplug a little more often… we’ll see how that goes! Keep the funny coming when you can (and when you’re not training for American Ninja Warrior which we all know is what you’re really spending your time on now!)
Liz
Mer, you nailed it. I didn’t want to have to say it explicitly, but YES, I am in the running to be on the next season of American Ninja Warrior. Thank you noticing 🙂
And don’t worry, I’ll still be posting regularly! I am just trying to keep from becoming a lunatic with carpal tunnel syndrome.
Jenn
Love you Liz! I’ve been reading for a while, and always appreciate the way you are so REAL. Thanks also for the reminder that our families are more important than the internet… Love to your mom as well. Cancer does suck.
Liz
Jenn, thanks for commenting. I love it when long-time readers take the time to say hello!
Liz
Good for you. As a writing teacher of mine said, write to stay sane not to get crazier. I started my own blog for similar reasons. Glad to hear your mom is recovering.
Steph
Good for you! I love reading blogs but cant make the time to write my own because raising two kids is so consuming–I mean, my top priority…that said, I find you hilarious and love your honesty. I sometimes randomly laugh out loud when I think about your fire truck episode! Keep writing when you can, but making family top priority!
Enn
You had me at vag steaming.
I’ve been a long-time reader/lurker and now subscriber. This may be my favorite post of yours. You’re very real, relatable, and so wonderfully FUNNY! I started my blog a few weeks ago and I’ve been thinking that I have to pace myself if I intend to continue long term. This post just validates those thoughts.
As a survivor, I know firsthand that CANCER IS AN ASSHOLE, so I’m glad to read that your mom is recovering nicely. Yay Grand-Mothership!! Maybe SHE should be on American Ninja Warrior, because beating cancer is totally Ninja-like.
Liz
Thanks so much Enn! And you’re totally right, my mom should be on American Ninja Warrior. In fact I’m not totally sure why that hasn’t been part of her treatment plan. By the way, I checked out your blog and I love the design! Also, YES, pacing yourself is really important if you want to do a blog for more than a few months. I think 3 months is the average lifespan of a blog, because people don’t realize how hard it is and they burn out quickly. Good luck to you!
Erin H
I haven’t read in AGES because life somehow swallowed my free time as of late, so I certainly get it! Do what you need to do for you and your family. I’ll be happy for the light hearted commentary whenever it’s there. When it’s not, I suppose I could hang out with my family or actually get some work done at the office. LOL.
And I’m so glad to see that Nolan is just as cute as ever!