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This weekend it struck me: My daughter, who is just a year old, will never know a world where there hasn’t been a woman in the White House. And until the age of 41, I’ve never known a world where there has. My kids will never live in a country where there hasn’t been a…
Dear Nolan,
I love you and want the best for you. And I believe you love me, too, based on the way you suck on my cheek with reckless abandon, and lunge toward me, with arms flailing, when you are feeling frustrated. I interpret those as signs of love.
So I know how we feel about one another in the “big picture.” But I can’t help but notice that on the ground floor, if you will, we have some competing notions as to how the day should run. It does not appear that we are on the same page when it comes to our various goals and agendas for our days.
There. I said it. I had to get it out there so that we could begin to come to a mutually agreeable plan. As they say in some self-help circles, acceptance comes before change.
Let’s take a look at a few examples.
You are fascinated by the spoon, and I love that about you. Your curiosity about life. This is a precursor to Zest, which is a trait known to help you get into college. But my goal for the spoon is simple – I want it to successfully transfer food into your mouth. To ensure that a puree makes it into your pie hole. And here we are at an impasse. It seems that lately (and I don’t mean to generalize, as that is a bad habit adults have) – but it seems that lately EVERY SINGLE TIME I try to feed you you intentionally block my efforts by grabbing wildly at the spoon, unsatisfied until you have gotten your prize and spent at least 3 minutes examining it from every angle, and 2 more minutes shoving it too far back into your mouth. Don’t look at me like that Nolan, I can tell it’s too far back in your mouth by the way you gag on it. Your passion for the spoon is making our meals, how shall I say this nicely, a loooong shitshow.
My goal is for you to get comfortable in the water, maybe get in some light aerobic activity, and ultimately to be way better than Michael Phelps (but that’s a few years off, I know). Your goal for yourself is to keep your hair dry and to steal the straw from my iced coffee at the end of your lesson. Also to maintain your insulation “because winter is right around the corner.” Nice try, Nolan.
My agenda is far from hidden. I would like you to step up to the plate and start crawling like the 7 month old down the block (you are 10 months old Nolie!) Your agenda is to become a Kennedy. You think that with hair so thick and a look that says “Where’s my yacht?!” you can remain an “unsupported sitter” indefinitely. False. Eventually you will need to become physically mobile. Stop using your hair as a crutch.
BathtimeMy goal is to get any and all fecal matter out from your undercarriage, and to make sure that behind your ears stay fresh as well. Your goal is to grab your junk. I’m not certain that you have any bigger agenda here.
As we head into our 3rd salon cut tomorrow, I think we should discuss our respective goals for your hair. My goal for your hair is to maintain its sheen and body, and hopefully some of its wave, without letting it get so long that a) people keep saying what a pretty girl you are, and b) it gets in your eyes so much so that you can’t see your own hands. Your goal, and I’m paraphrasing here, is “To be the next Donny Osmond and also to launch my own line of hair care products.”
See what I’m saying Nolan? Our agendas conflict.
My goal is simple: to get out of the house in a timely manner to get our errands done. Your goal seems to be to delay this in any way possible, typically by both soiling your diaper and deciding that you need to nurse desperately. Also, on occasion, you achieve your goal by vomiting on my outfit, forcing a last minute costume change. I have to hand it to you, that is clever and effective. You have some good tactics for a baby.
The ball is in your court, Nolan. I’ll be awaiting your response. (And yes, of course I’ll explain what “ball in your court” means first).
Love, Mom
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ahhh! the sweater around the shoulders cracked me up!
as its made clear that one of your goals of this blog is to become rich (fingers crossed but im not sure bloggers are ever in the Forbes top 100) anyway…you should consider having Nolan be a baby model. He is seriously cute and photogenic!!!
Sarah I may have to resort to that. Somebody better make the big bucks off of looks in this family!
That Kennedy shot is the money shot. Amazing.
Also, as an idea – he needs to hold two spoons and you control the feeding one. Bada Boom.
Won’t he bang the spoons together in a one man duel?? I can’t see this working but I know you are an experienced parent of two, so I implicitly trust you.
Yeah, I tried the “let her hold one spoon while I feed her with the other” trick. She’s a very greedy little girl, so she would then throw the spoon she’s holding on the floor and grab mine. I decided to help her work on her dexterity at an early age, so for a child of 14 months, she’s becoming a champ at using a spoon and fork to feed herself. My job is almost done.
Bethany, she’s basically raised! I think you have fulfilled your role to 100% satisfaction and should just call it a day at this point.
“…hair so thick and a look that says ‘Where’s my yacht?!'” – I just can’t stop laughing… Great post! I can’t wait for Nolan’s rebuttal post!
Nolan is busy crafting his rebuttal as we speak. He thinks it will be out next week – when I pressed for specifics, he said that true art cannot be rushed.
Nolan and I (grandma C) are having our third haircut tomorrow. The scarey thing is that his haircut takes just as long as mine does, and quite frankly with much better results.
May the best hair win!
Liz, apparently Nolan and Teddy have the same agenda regarding mobility. Teddy is perfectly content to remain stationary as well. Why crawl when you can sit in one spot and have mommy at your beck and call? Oh and the junk grabbing. Ever since he discovered it months ago, it is his favorite toy. Don’t see that changing!
Exactly! Maybe it’s just that they’e super smart babies and they have basically decided that they want to “outsource” crawling to us (i.e. have us carry them).
You have probably tried this, but I always gave babies a spoon to hold while I fed them with another one. (I just did not like to touch that spoon after it is all covered with food). Simple and somewhat effective. Loving your blog!
Now I feel kind of simple, because after posting this blog entry several people recommended the same thing, and it hadn’t even occurred to me! I’m going to try it today and I’ll report back my findings 🙂
I haven’t commented before, but LOVE your blog. I’ve been reading from the get go! I read it to my 7 month old who is primarily part of the Nolan Fan Club (I think it’s the hair), but she also finds you quite witty. After this inspiring post, are working to become more in harmony with one another, as we too have different agendas in life. So from you mom to another thank you.
Rose, it really pleases me that Nolan and I can be an inspiration for harmony in your own home. Although I haven’t heard Nolan’s rebuttal to my letter yet, so it’s too soon to tell if we are resolving our differences or not. As you can imagine, this is a very tense time. I’ll keep you appraised of the situation as it unfolds.
Love the sweater around the shoulders! He is ready for Nantucket 🙂
Oh Lord yes. I need to get him some boat shoes.